Did you ever wonder what the big moment would be like? I think every body does... I know that I have. I have pictured it so many time that every time it changes. There is never a face on the man, but I can tell that he loves me, there isn't always flowers, sometimes it is on the beach, and others it is on a gorgeous bed. Even though the fantasy isn't always the same, there is one constant in this dream of mine, there is love...
I told someone the other day that I was a virgin. Yup I spilled the beans. The reaction I got surprised me, I wasn't expecting congratulating slaps on the back or high fives, but I was completely taken back by the look of concern, and pity that I was given! When I shared my news, the way that I was treated went in a completely different direction! No longer did they joke with me about sexual manners, I was left out of the "juicy" conversations. I was treated like a child. It was as if my virginal status equaled my adulthood to be questioned or even completely disregarded!
I grew up with examples of lasting relationships everywhere I looked! Bedtimes stories, told of how two people meet and fall in love then live Happily Ever After. After I out grew those, there the couples in my favorite movies, Dawson and Joey? Their love lasted...it never ended!
I will always remember when watching Veronica Mars I heard Logan tell Veronica that their love was epic. The kind to spanning years and continents. Blood shed. Lives ruined. Epic... That was ingrained into my very heart... And when Veronica asked if it should be that hard he answers, "Nobody writes songs about the ones that come easy."
I have waited for my epic story, for  a love that lasts, that can withstand bloodshed and lives ruined ... I have waited to be swept off my feet by a man that believes in that too. I know that not everyone I meet who learns my little secret will be understanding...heck I have already experienced every reaction but the one I crave...Acceptance.  I am sure that more dates will be ruined by this little tidbit, of information.
But I will wait, it doesn't matter how long... Because I deserve an epic love... The kind that spans years and continents...

Confession time... I AM A VIRGIN!
I am a 20 year old attractive female who has never had sex (never even been past first base).
You may be wondering why, or even how I would be able to do that. Let me fill you in on a little secret... It's not that hard! I mean you don't miss what you ever had right? So there is the how, now let's talk about the why...
I grew up in a very small town in Canada, and in my little town, sexual exploits were the talk of the highschool. I think that is probably the main reason I never had sex. When I was younger, I was scared of being labelled a slut... But as I grew up another thought entered the picture, why must we do everything so fast in this world? As my friends began having sex, or engaging in sexual experiments, it became a competition to see who would be the first to lose it.
In today's world everything is expected to be quick, fast food, speedy one hour photo developing, self help cashier lines, freeways, online banking, the list goes on and on. Can you tell me the last time you waited in line for more than 2 minutes without getting upset, or impatient. I can't! Because we are taught that quick is good... Slow and steady no longer wins the race, but is left in the dust by speed and efficiency. Waiting has become obsolete , why wait when everything is right in reach? So my thought was this, in a world where everything is measured in time, why on earth does sex have to be in that category?
When I asked my friends about their first time, the answer I got was not what I was expecting. There were no hearts and flowers, words of love weren't mentioned, and some of them couldn't even remember the details.
I didn't want that. I don't want that. My virginity started off being protected by fear of a bad reputation, but then it was because a fear of losing a part of me for nothing special in return. Ever heard you can't get something for nothing? Well in today's society that is what everything is about!
Being a virgin in the 21st century is not easy, the allure of sex is everywhere but I am going to hold out for something that matters, I am going to hold out for love... After all it is called making love isn't it?