Confession time... I AM A VIRGIN!
I am a 20 year old attractive female who has never had sex (never even been past first base).
You may be wondering why, or even how I would be able to do that. Let me fill you in on a little secret... It's not that hard! I mean you don't miss what you ever had right? So there is the how, now let's talk about the why...
I grew up in a very small town in Canada, and in my little town, sexual exploits were the talk of the highschool. I think that is probably the main reason I never had sex. When I was younger, I was scared of being labelled a slut... But as I grew up another thought entered the picture, why must we do everything so fast in this world? As my friends began having sex, or engaging in sexual experiments, it became a competition to see who would be the first to lose it.
In today's world everything is expected to be quick, fast food, speedy one hour photo developing, self help cashier lines, freeways, online banking, the list goes on and on. Can you tell me the last time you waited in line for more than 2 minutes without getting upset, or impatient. I can't! Because we are taught that quick is good... Slow and steady no longer wins the race, but is left in the dust by speed and efficiency. Waiting has become obsolete , why wait when everything is right in reach? So my thought was this, in a world where everything is measured in time, why on earth does sex have to be in that category?
When I asked my friends about their first time, the answer I got was not what I was expecting. There were no hearts and flowers, words of love weren't mentioned, and some of them couldn't even remember the details.
I didn't want that. I don't want that. My virginity started off being protected by fear of a bad reputation, but then it was because a fear of losing a part of me for nothing special in return. Ever heard you can't get something for nothing? Well in today's society that is what everything is about!
Being a virgin in the 21st century is not easy, the allure of sex is everywhere but I am going to hold out for something that matters, I am going to hold out for love... After all it is called making love isn't it?